Sarah S. Oldham

Top rated Family Law attorney in Westport, Connecticut

Rutkin, Oldham & Griffin, LLC
Sarah S. Oldham
Rutkin, Oldham & Griffin, LLC

Practice Areas: Family Law; view more

Licensed in Connecticut since: 1988

Education: University of Connecticut School of Law

Selected to Super Lawyers: 2006 - 2023

Rutkin, Oldham & Griffin, LLC

5 Imperial Avenue
Westport, CT 06880 Visit website


Sarah S. (Sally) Oldham partnered with Arnold Rutkin in 1994 to form Rutkin & Oldham, L.L.C., a boutique family and matrimonial law firm. Prior to her career joining the firm, attorney Oldham was a psychologist who worked within the Connecticut public school system and also had her own private practice. Her background in psychology greatly benefits her clients. Attorney Oldham has extensive experience handling all types of domestic relations matters such as marriage dissolutions, dividing complex financial assets, and contested child custody and visitation proceedings. She also serves as a special master for family matters in the Connecticut court system. Attorney Oldham has co-authored publications with attorney Rutkin, and has authored several additional articles on family law topics. She has been selected by her fellow attorneys for inclusion in The Best Lawyers in America annually since 2006, and she was named one of Connecticut's Top 25 Female Lawyers in 2006. She was also selected as one of “Ten Leaders in Matrimonial & Divorce Law” in Connecticut, and she is AV-rated by Martindale-Hubbell, the highest rating available by this peer-review rating system.

Practice areas

Family Law

Focus areas

Alimony & Spousal Support, Child Support, Custody & Visitation, Dissolution, Divorce, Marital Property

  • 100% Family Law

First Admitted: 1988, Connecticut

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Scholarly Lectures/Writings:
  • "Sample Orders in Addiction Cases", American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers Midyear Meeting, Cancun, Mexico (2014)
  • Lecturer, "When Domestic Issues Result in Criminal Cases", Fairfield County Bar Association, Criminal Law Committee Luncheon, 2015
  • "A Comparison of Standards and Guidelines Applicable to Custody Evaluations", The Anatomy of a Trial Seminar, Connecticut Chapter, American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers (2018)
  • Lecturer, "Document Management", Connecticut Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Advanced Technology Seminar, 2014
  • Lecturer, "The DSM-5 and Its Practical Application to the Family Lawyer, Connecticut Bar Association, Annual Meeting, 2013
  • Lecturer, "Substance Abuse Issues in Family Law Cases", Connecticut Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Advanced Custody Seminar, 2012
  • Lecturer, "An Overview of Property Division and Spousal Support Regimes in the U.S.", IAML Annual Meeting, Queenstown, NZ, September 2010
  • Author, "Distributing Executive Compensation Benefits", The Family Advocate, Vol. 23, #3, Winter 2001
  • Lecturer, "Effective Utilization of Mental Health Professionals in Family Cases", Connecticut Bar Association, 2001
  • Lecturer, "How to Avoid the Pitfalls and Pratfalls of Dividing Pensions", Connecticut Bar Association, 2002
  • Lecturer, "Hot Topics: The Uniform Child Custody Jurisdication and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA)", Connecticut Bar Association, Annual Meeting, 2003
  • Lecturer, "Inheritances, Gifts & Pre-Marital Assets", Connecticut Bar Association, 2003
  • Moderator, Symposium on Professionalism, Regional Bar Association, 2004
  • Lecturer, "Complex Issues in Family Law Cases" or "How to Handle Tricky Questions and Sticky Situations", Connecticut Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Biennial Seminar, 2005
  • Author, "Examining the Mental Health Expert", The Family Advocate, Vol. 30, #4, Spring 2008
  • Lecturer, "Psychological Testing in Cases of Disputed Custody", ABA-APA Conference, 2008
  • Lecturer, "Meeting the Best Interests of the Child Standard with New Psychological Research", Connecticut Bar Association, Annual Legal Conference, 2016
  • Lecturer, "Alimony Recapture and Family Support", Connecticut Chapter of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Advanced Financial Issues Seminar, 2016
  • Best Mentor Award, Connecticut Law Tribune 2019
  • Female Lawyer of the Year for Westport, Family Law Experts 2015 
  • "New York Area's Best Lawyers", New York Magazine, 2007 - Present
  • AV rated by Martindale-Hubbell - "Highest Possible Rating in Both Legal Ability and Ethical Standards", 2010 - Present Martindale-Hubbell, The Bar Register of Preeminent Women Lawyers, 2012 - Present
  • Top 25 Female Lawyers, Connecticut Magazine "Super Lawyers", 2007 - Present Connecticut Magazine "Super Lawyers", 2006 - Present
  • Selected as one of “Ten Leaders in Matrimonial & Divorce Law” in Connecticut, 2008 - Present
  • New England Best Lawyers, The Wall Street Journal, 2015
Educational Background:
  • Southern Connecticut State College, M.S., School Psychology, magna cum laude, 1974
  • Wesleyan University, B.A., Psychology, cum laude, 1972
  • University of Connecticut, J.D. cum laude, 1988
  • Southern Connecticut State College, 6th Year Degree, School of Psychology, 1975
Bar/Professional Activity:
  • Certificate of Completion, Comprehensive Guardian ad Litem/Attorney for Minor Child Training Program, State of Connecticut, 2012
  • Member, American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, Connecticut Chapter, 2006 - Present; Executive Committee, 2010 - Present
  • Member, Fairfield County Bar Association, Family Law Section, 1988 - Present
  • Member, Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, 2012 - Present
  • Fellow, International Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 2009 - Present; Board of Managers, USA Chapter, 2007 - 2015
  • Member, Connecticut Bar Association, Family Law Section, 1988 - Present; Member, Executive Committee, 1993 - Present
  • Fellow, American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, 2001 - Present; Chair, National Test Committee, 2005 - 2010
  • Member, American Bar Association, 1988 - Present
Other Outstanding Achievements:
  • Private pilot, licensed since 1980
  • Attorney Oldham was co-counsel (with Attorney Rutkin) in the precedent-setting case of Wendt v. Wendt, which made national headlines and set a legal precedent regarding the way that courts view the financial arrangements in marriage – especially when there are significant assets involved.
Verdicts/Settlements (Case Results):
  • Ireland v. Ireland, 246 Conn. 413 (1998)
  • Wendt v. Wendt, 59 Conn. App. 656 (2000), cert. denied 255 Conn. 918 (2000)
  •  Hines v. St. Vincent's Medical Center 232 Conn. 632, 657 A2d 578 (1995)

Office location for Sarah S. Oldham

5 Imperial Avenue
Westport, CT 06880

Phone: 800-591-6471

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